When you first have a baby, your whole life revolves around them. So much so that your relationship may have to take a back seat for a while, and that’s fine – if it is only for a while. It’s important to remember though, that you are still a friend and partner to your other half. A healthy relationship is a very important factor in your life, as well as your baby’s.
Here are some tips on maintaining your relationship after you’ve had your baby:
Appreciate their efforts
When you have a baby, the household chores double, and there’s no way you can do it all. While you may have been the one who loaded the dishwasher before, you might find your husband is the one doing it now. And if he’s not doing it the same way as you would, then it can be very hard to bite your tongue and just say thank you instead of criticising him for not doing it properly. However, this is exactly what you have to do. Which is more important, a perfectly loaded dishwasher, or a peaceful environment?
Compromise
If you and your partner agree on everything when it comes to parenting, you are one very lucky couple. For the rest of us, we have to learn how to compromise. Discuss the most important things with your other half and decide what you can compromise on and what you can’t. It’s important that you both live by the same rules, or else your little one will get confused, and you’ll be worn out from bickering with your other half.
Make time for sex
Sex is often an issue for new parents. While you may still enjoy being intimate with your other half, you probably enjoy sleeping a whole lot more. To combat this, you should plan dates, the way you did when you were just going out. This will help you get in the mood as you’ll have time to shave your legs and get a little bit excited, rather than trying to go straight from Super Mum to Super Sexy in 1.2 seconds.
Spend time alone
Family time is great, but it’s not the same as time spent with only your other half. Make sure you get time alone each week to catch up on what’s been going on in your lives as adults, rather than parents.
