No relationship can get by without going through a few bumps in the road, but it's how you deal with them that matters.
The three major issues that most couples go through are lack of communication, lack of sex and conflicting values, but sorting them out doesn't have to end in a breakup or divorce.
If you are experiencing problems, the following solutions should help:
1. Lack of communication
Not communicating with your other half can be detrimental to your relationship, but it is something that can very easily happen, especially when your kids demand most of your attention.
Put the phone away, turn off the TV and make an effort to actually sit down and talk with your other half. If you can, try to organise a walk without the kids every weekend or even 20 minutes each evening to really talk.
2. Not having sex
When you have a house to run and kids to take care of the only thing most mums want to do when they go to bed is to sleep. However, it is important not just for your relationship with your other half but also for your physical and mental wellbeing.
If you are struggling with a low sex drive, an appointment with your doctor will rule out any underlying medical conditions. However, if it is solely down to a lack of time or effort on either of your parts, do make an ‘appointment’ with your other half to schedule it in – the more you do it the more you’ll want it!
3. Conflicting values and ideals
Even if you have been together for years, you won’t have the exact same ideals, values or even parenting expectations. This can lead to a lot of conflict in the home, that can have a ripple effect on the whole family.
First and foremost, accept when you are in the wrong and apologise. If the same issues are creeping up daily, you need to sit down and sort them out once and for all. Compromise is also key to ensuring a happy and healthy home – both of you need to be willing to at least listen to the other person’s point of view.