We always think that mums fall in love with their babies at first sight but that's not always true.


Sometimes, it takes time to build that special bond with your baby, but once it's established it'll be there for life. 


Some new parents find bonding difficult at first, particularly if they're exhausted and stressed out. 



Having a premature baby, or a difficult delivery can also be a factor in not developing an immediate attachment.


Don't worry, there are lots of ways you can develop your relationship with your baby. Here are a few tips to help you along the way. 


1. Skin-to-skin contact

The human touch is very reassuring so make sure you gave your little one lots of skin-to-skin contact.


You can try a gentle baby massage and see how they react.


You'll often find just holding and stroking your baby can help you feel calm also.


It's even been proved to ease the effects of postpartum depression.



2. Face to face time

Newborns have quite fuzzy vision at first but they can see light, motion and faces. 


If you get close to your bub, they can make out your expressions which they'll find fascinating.


Try smiling and cooing to them and before you know it, they'll be doing it back. 



3. Using a baby sling or front carrier

Your baby will love the safe secure feeling of being strapped to your body. 


They can look up at you and the eye contact will help you bond. 



4. Breastfeeding

If you are able to breastfeed, even for a little while, it will help improve your bond. 


Breastfeeding releases hormones in your body which promote relaxation and feelings of attachment. 



5. Play with your baby

A simple game of peekaboo or tickling their toes helps stimulate your tot. 


You'll enjoy trying new games as they get older and are able to interact with you.



6. Read to your baby 

Talking to your baby and reading to them will help them recognise your voice. 


This can be turned into a bedtime routine as your baby gets older. 



7. Communicate with them

Use any means to communicate with your tot, whether it's talking, singing or waving to them. 


Soon they'll cooing and babbling back to you and you can hold a "conversation."



8. Bonding with premature or sick babies. 

It's harder to establish a bond if your little one has to stay in hospital.


You may be scared to go near them, but most hospitals encourage bonding time.


Most hospitals will facilitate a way for you to cuddle your baby or even just hold their hand.



If you're struggling to form an attachment after a few months or are having feelings of extreme sadness, talk your GP.


You could be suffering from postpartum depression and it's important to treat this as soon as possible.