While the MummyPages HQ is filled to the rafters with die-hard romantics, we also know all too well that relationships are built on so much more than sweet nothings.

And when it comes to marriages, sweet nothings are so far down the line sometimes, they almost forget to feature.

And yet when we consider the vows we exchanged - or plan to exchange - on our wedding day, many of us can't get past the sentiments so prevalent in the fairytales we devoured as children.

But one woman, with a decade of married life behind her, has decided to re-write her vows in an effort to properly reflect what it means to be in a life-long partnership, and ladies, it speaks to us on an emotional level.

Bella Ellwood-Clayton, a sex and relationship writer from Melbourne, has ditched her previous flimsy promises for the renewal of her vows this December, and instead opted to share an insight into what it really takes to be part of a marriage.

From reflecting on the endless cycle of rebukes and recriminations followed by romance and reconciliation which feature in almost every marriage, Bella has it nailed.

In addition to promising her husband, she will "not compare our relationship to manufactured Hollywood film ideals", the mum-of-two added: "I will forgive you, endlessly. Partnerships of every kind are annoying. And long-term ones, even more so."

In a vow which will resonate with so many in relationships, she also promised: "I will not compete with you about who "works" harder. I accept that we both work hard, even though our roles and responsibilities will change over time."

And while so many of her vows do focus on the practical, Bella acknowledged the importance of encouragement and gratitude in every relationship, married or not.

"I will remember to make you feel attractive and desirable and compliment you" she promised before vowing: "I will forgive you of all the faults that you share with our children. And be forever grateful that someone in the world can put up with mine."

And that's it, we're crying.




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