I don’t mean to brag, but my Monday morning commute is a mere ten seconds long, and can be done in my underwear.


Now I know that sounds great, but imagine if you will, that you had to wake up, already in work, at your desk, every day. No snooze button, no fortifying coffee to steel you for the travails ahead, and definitely no option of taking a sickie for a duvet day. Slightly less appealing now, isn’t it? 

 

Don’t get me wrong, being a stay-at-home dad is, without a doubt, the best job I’ve ever had, in job satisfaction terms anyway. Though if I HAD to criticise, I’d say: The hours are long, the pay non-existent, oh, and the boss is prone to wild mood swings and occasional incontinence. Mind you, over a decade of working in newspapers, I’d pretty much experienced all of those things before.

 

But like any other job, the SAHD life has its own inherent challenges and responsibilities. I believe that if, at the end of the week, I can assure myself that certain key needs have been met, then maybe I’ve not entirely failed as a primary carer to Amelia (Mimi).

 

Obviously, food, sleep, and hygiene go without saying, but there’s more to parenting than just keeping them alive, so I feel our week must also include family, education, exercise, freedom, and Mama time.

 

Why hang out with boring old Dada when you can fish for imaginary whales in Nana's garden?
Why hang out with boring old Dada when you can fish for imaginary
whales in Nana's garden?

 

FAMILY

I must admit, as a new SAHD, I was reluctant to part with my little girl. To deliver her to anyone else’s care seemed remiss and frankly, I didn’t know what to do with myself when not with her. But it selfish of me to keep her from her family, my in-laws, who have so much love to give and so much to teach her, so I soon got over it. Ever since then, Tuesdays have been Nana’s Day - when Amelia goes to a haven of adoration and indulgence. I know now how lucky we are to have family so close by, and this gives me a chance to take on the domestic side of my job. Each week I attempt to scale and reduce the pile of laundry we call Mount Washmore, yet somehow it replenishes itself again! 



Amelia, however, sometimes returns from Nana’s on the wrong side of a sugar rush, bleary eyed and exhausted from fun and frolics. At those times she has little patience for my so-called authority - a stark premonition of how her teenage years might look. 

 

At 18-months old, Amelia was already a Dr Seuss
aficionado, she can quote this one by heart.

 

EDUCATION

A staple of our routine is the weekly visit to our local library. The toddler playgroup there afforded an opportunity to expose Mimi to the joy and potential of books, along with the hedonism of running noisily riot in a bastion of calm and quiet. Storytelling, singing songs and rhymes, and the occasional toddler fistfight are the day’s highlights.

For the longest time, I was something of a curiosity here - the only dad amongst a sea of doting mums. But recently the dad numbers have swelled, to sometimes as many as FOUR! Each of us nodding sympathetically to the other as we try, however unconsciously, to prove our capability. 

 

Ready for a dip, Peppa Pig managing yet again to make an appearance, despite Dada's distaste.

 

EXERCISE

 

With education, culture, and socialising all covered by the library visit, it’s time for physical activity. Though no good at any of them, I’ve always played a lot of sports (Healthy Mind, Healthy Body and all that..), so want Mimi to be active and fit too. Since six months old she has been to the swimming pool almost every week. Small progress is made each visit, though her technique needs work. Invariably my coaching of ‘kick, kick, kick,’ is curtailed by one of those kicks landing exactly where I don’t want it. Still, I’m not trying to raise an Olympic athlete, and at least she’s got a headstart on the self-defence classes now. 

 

Lessons in cause and effect in a muddy park - the main outcome
being.. more laundry!

 

FREEDOM

 

By the end of the week, Mimi is likely tiring of my company, my bad puns, and my mantras of ‘get down from there’ and ‘take that out of your mouth’. So it’s time to set her free. Not literally, though I’m sure she’d thrive, I just let her determine the itinerary of a day in the park. Weather permitting, it’s free range toddler day - in gumboots and gloves, I unleash her to wander, jump in muddy puddles, befriend creepy-crawlies, and harass other kiddies - I just follow her lead.

 

These two amazing girls are my whole life, they're both so full of fun and mischief.

 

(MIMI &) MAMA TIME

 

The weekend is family time, or more specifically, Mama time. While I make every effort to allow my hard working spouse some sort of lie in, the reality is that Mimi is now all Daddied out. She’ll drag her groggy mum out of bed and into a convoluted game of hide-and-seek-meets-parkour as early as possible.

 

I would feel bad, but the hardest part of other mornings is waving Mama off to work. There’s a mixture of guilt - that she’s missing out on all the milestones and frolics in which I get to revel. Anxiety also hits - that worry that sooner or later I’m going to mess up this parenting lark in a way she never would. And then there is the smugness - that I get to spend my day with this curious, funny, beautiful girl and teach her what I can. This smugness, by the way, inspires a second round of guilt. So a weekend of togetherness, however tired we may be, is only fair and proper, and couldn’t feel more right.
 

After all, Monday comes around again pretty quick, and I’ll be commuting in my boxers again before I know it.

I’m Eoin, a 41-year-old ‘recovering’ journalist, designer, and artist. Most importantly I, like many of my peers, am a father.
A father to Amelia, a blonde, blue-eyed font of amazement, wonder, and love (while also being a producer of icky fluids and Everest-like mounds of laundry). 
But I find myself to be somewhat of a rarity amongst men my age, in that I’m a dad who stays home.
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