If you suspect your teenager is becoming dangerously obsessed with their weight or is showing anorexic or bulimic tendencies, do not ignore the problem.
Here are some key things to keep in mind when addressing the issue…
1. Look for early warning signs
If you’ve noticed that your teen has lost weight recently or that their eating habits have changed, be aware of other signs that could be pointing to a problem. If your child has become increasingly obsessed with dieting, weight or exercise, it could be a sign that something is not right. Take note of their eating habits – if they skip meals, refuse food, or retreat to the bathroom after meals, for example.
2. It’s not just about food
While it’s important to speak with your child as early as possible, keep in mind before addressing the issue that eating disorders are not just about food – they usually have an emotional or psychological basis. Your teen may be trying to control his or her weight as a coping mechanism for some larger problem. Try to think about the wider issues in your teen’s life and what could be causing this sudden change, before bringing up your concerns with them.
3. Expect denial, anger and outbursts
Speaking with your teen about their weight and body issues won’t be easy, especially if you are correct in thinking there is a problem. Your child may become defensive or deny that there is anything wrong. Be aware of your wording when discussing your concerns – focus on “I” instead of “you.” Rather than saying “you’re too thin,” try letting your child know that “I’m worried about how much weight you’ve lost recently.” This kind of language is less likely to provoke an angry or defensive response.
4. Trust your instincts
Even if your teen insists nothing is wrong, trust your gut instinct as a parent. Seek professional help from a GP or nutritionist if you feel something is not right. Explain to your child what you are doing and why - don’t go behind their back.
5. Don’t force things
Demanding that your teen “just eats” or “stops this nonsense” isn’t going to help either of you. Forcing them to eat is too much to ask in the early stages – talking openly or looking for professional help and advice is much more likely to ease the problem.
