We know that sex is great for your body and mind and is also important to keep your relationship strong and healthy, but what if you simply can’t get into the mood?
If you have been struggling and wondering why, the following four reasons might help you uncover the problem.
Lack of self-confidence
A lack of self confidence can hinder your ability to relax and/or take your clothes off in front of someone. This, in turn, can make you feel undesirable and not worthy of sex. Make sure you are honest with your other half about how you feel so that you can work it out together, and, if you need to, talk to a professional, particularly if your low self-esteem doesn't seem to be improving.
Stress is something we can't avoid, and it is one of the biggest sex barriers. If your mind is elsewhere, you aren’t in the moment which can cause you to struggle to connect with your other half. Try to reduce pressures at home or at work, talk to someone about how you feel and above all, keep your partner in the loop.
Worrying about not being in the mood
It’s like a vicious circle – worrying about not being able to get in the mood will affect your ability to get in the mood. It is important to understand that every relationship is different and that while your friend might be doing it every night, that doesn’t mean you and your partner need to. Avoid looking towards others to determine how often you need to be at it, just concentrate on you.
Your relationship is going through a rough patch
While there are many reasons why your sex drive is MIA, your relationship in general might be the reason you don’t want to get down and dirty. From struggling to spend time together, not feeling attracted towards them anymore, to cheating suspicions, there are a number of reasons why your relationship might not be as strong anymore. It this sounds like you, it is important you open up to your other half and voice any concerns.
Once you figure out what the problem is you'll be getting under the sheets before you know it, just give yourself time.