You asked

Can I have a successful career and be a hands-on mum?

While the answer to this question is yes, it does require you to figure out what success means in both cases. It’s impossible to be a career woman and still be present for important events in your child’s life.
A good way to figure out how to balance your career with being a mum is to make a list of the things you want most in your life. Write down everything, from having to fetch your child at 5pm every day to wanting to own your own business, and everything else that’s important to you. Then put them in order. You’ll find that it’s a lot easier to decide which to choose when it comes to a choice between your child’s life and your career if you have it all down on paper. Speak to your partner too. Getting ahead in your career as a mum is going to require teamwork and you need to get him on board with your plans.
Finally, remember that there’s nothing wrong with wanting to have a career. It’s okay to want success in other areas of your life and to be a good mum!

More questions

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When you become a parent it is more important than ever to build a nest egg to cope with any unexpected expenses such as doctor’s bills or expensive car or home repairs.
Updating your will (or putting one together) is a necessity when you have a baby
Applications for Maternity Benefit are handled by the Department of Social Protection.
Although you are entitled to maternity leave, and can qualify for Maternity Benefits, these are subject to specific rules.
If you thought going back to work, or being a stay-at-home parent were your only options, think again.
Plan your weekends well and do the necessary preparation during the week to ensure that there is time for fun – not just chores – on Saturday and Sunday.
It is important to remember that you are only human and it is impossible to have a perfectly balanced work and home life. Unexpected things do happen and it is at times like these that you should simply take a deep breath, relax and accept that you are doing the best you can.
Join up with other stay-at-home moms and dads in your area. Getting together with them regularly will make up for the adult company you are so accustomed to in the workplace.
It’s surprisingly common for stay-at-home mums to resent having to stay home and care for children.