Mum worried daughter will realise people think her sister is prettier than her

Have any of you ever been in a position where one of your kids got more attention than the other? 

Has this lead to issues with their relationship as siblings - perhaps jealousy or resentment?

It's a very sensitive topic and tricky to broach - but we need to talk about it.

One mum is going through this with her daughters at the moment and took to Mumsnet to ask other mums what they thought.

The anonymous woman revealed that she thinks her 20-months-old is a very pretty baby, unlike her three-year-old. 

She wrote that she thinks both of her kids are fabulous in every way.

She said, ''The (horrendously shallow) issue is that people keep commenting on how gorgeous/beautiful/pretty my youngest is and it's really starting to rub me the wrong way. We were at a family party yesterday and three people commented at different times and two of those times my older daughter was present.''

She continued, ''I'm worried she's starting to notice and I'm not sure how to handle it. Last week her little sister was pretending to talk to her Nana on an imaginary phone, I thought it was adorable and did say, 'oh you're so cute' and older daughter came running out of the living room to exclaim, 'I'm cute too!"

She added, ''Generally, I try hard not to comment on personal appearance, instead of complimenting them on being clever/funny/kind but I fear it's only a matter of time before they realise that society ranks girls on their appearance more than any other attribute and this saddens me.''

She was met with mixed responses.

One mum said, ''Just tell them, politely, to stop doing it. No need for drama. They might not even realise they are.''

While another wrote, ''Say "oh yes she is taking after her beautiful/gorgeous older beautiful sister" whenever a comment is made about the younger child.''

What do you think - is this something that should be nipped in the bud or is it just the way society is?




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