Pregnancy can be an exciting and scary time for women. But it can be an even more confusing for an outsider looking in. So, if you’ve been pregnant before, it will come as no surprise if your expectant friend comes to you seeking advice. Here are some things that we all tell our pregnant friends and some topics that are best not mentioned.
It will work out
Probably not the most helpful advice but it’s the truth. Most of the fears and worries that pregnant women have, do work out. If she still feels a little nervous, emphasis how you got through some of the difficult tasks you had while you were pregnant.
You’ll be a natural
It doesn’t matter have how much experience they have in childcare or if they’ve barely spent any time with children. Being a mother will come naturally to her.
Her hormones will be all over the place and it’s completely normal. Explain to your friend that her emotions will change throughout her pregnancy and she can get upset easily. It sometimes a good idea for your friend to hear how you coped with the hormonal changes.
It’s ok to ask for help
Some new mothers feel they have to cope with their new roles all by themselves, but reassure them this doesn’t have to be the case. Help from family members and friends (including yourself) can be essential for new mothers. They can not only give new mums some great advice but also give your friend an opportunity to have some much needed rest.
Lack of sleep is a sad reality for most pregnant women. It could be the activity of their little one or often the impossibility of trying to get comfortable. But this is unfortunately only the beginning and once the little one arrives, time for sleep will be harder to find.
No horror stories
Of course the majority of pregnant women worry about their impending due date. Even if she does have some questions about your labour experience or questions about labour in general. It’s best to keep the topic vague, as each experience is different and horror stories won’t help.