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When it comes to choosing godparents for your baby, it can be a little tricky, particularly if you want to choose a friend rather than a family member.


While the decision is entirely up to you and your other half, you may, unfortunately, have to deal with a few unhappy people who assumed they would be your first choice.


In situations like these it is important that you tread carefully and are sensitive to their issues.


1. Explain your choice

If you chose friends over family because you feel your brothers and sisters already have a special place in your child’s life, then tell them. And, again, if it’s to do with the bond that you have with your friend that helped you make your choice explain that too.


2. Listen to them

Ask them why they are unhappy with your decision – perhaps you had agreed when you were younger that you would each be godparents or that you are godparents to their kids. Whatever their concerns, make sure you listen to them with respect.



3. See it from their point of view

One of the most effective ways to understand where they are coming from is to see things from their point of view. How would you feel if you had assumed that you would be a godparent to their child only to be left disappointed?  This will help you understand and sympathise with their sadness.


4. Give them another important role

Even if they aren’t godparents why not give them a special role on the day of the christening. A special reading or asking them to say a few words can help family members feel included and involved in the day. 


5. Be honest with each other

If you have only heard on the grape vine that they are unhappy, then you need to be upfront and ask them straight out. Other family members can sometimes assume that one brother or sister is not happy when, in fact, they have no qualms with you. If you feel it is warranted, grab a coffee with the person who is unhappy and be open and honest with each other. 






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