Finding out you are pregnant is probably one of the scariest and exciting times of your life. Unfortunately, some expectant mothers can lose their baby through miscarriage and are left with overwhelming feelings of grief. While everyone deals with a miscarriage differently, the following 10 things may help you to feel better:
Talk to female family and friends
Surround yourself with family and friends. Tell them exactly how you are feeling – voice your anger and fears - cry in front of them or simply jus ask them to hug you.
Tell your other half how you are feeling
Don’t bottle things up and make sure you involve your other half in your grief. Remember, while they may be expressing their grief or sense of loss another way, you have both lost something and you need to help each other to move on.
Take your time to grieve
Don’t try to move past the experience quickly and ignore thise who say you should be over it by now. take your time to say goodbye to your baby and the life you had dreamed of when they arrived.
Take care of yourself
Try not to let yourself go. Get up, have a shower, get dressed and put on some make-up. Even if you don’t feel like it, doing everyday normal things will help you. Make sure you are eating well and if you can’t face cooking ask a family member or friend to batch cook food for you so all you have to do is heat it up.
Don’t rush to get pregnant again
Your GP will tell you when it is ok to start trying again; however, this does not mean you have to as soon as you get the go-ahead. Make sure you have given yourself enough time to get over the loss of your pregnancy before attempting to try again. Trying to move on by having another baby won’t help you in the long run. Grieve for your baby first and only when you feel you are ready, should you try again.
How to get closure
Some mums benefit from some sort of ceremony or act to help them move on. It doesn’t need to be a grand gesture, simply writing a letter with your feelings and what you had hoped for the future might be enough.