It’s important that you set boundaries for your tween and one of the ways to do this is by setting an appropriate general curfew that can be added to or restricted if there is a special occasion or if you need them to be home at an earlier time. The following suggestions can be helpful in setting curfews:
- Don’t allow them to walk out the door and say that they’ll see you at such and such a time. They should always tell you where they are going and that they will call if their plans change.
- Don’t allow them to call ½ hour before they are due to be home to ask if they can sleep over at a friend’s house. This generally means that ‘something is up’.
- Set a reasonable time for all involved. If you would like them home by eight so you can relax for the evening, then set the curfew a little bit earlier.
- Do not allow your decision to be swayed by what time other parents allow their children out until.
There should also be consequences for being late depending on the degree of violation. Perhaps have a five minute grace period. After five minutes, she is late. Three lates from Sunday to Saturday means her curfew is a half hour earlier for the following week.If she is more than 15 minutes late, then consider grounding her.