Unreasonable: Vegan mum-to-be furious at husband for suggesting she eats meat

Pregnancy isn't a walk in the park, any expectant mum can tell you that.

So when others start to wade in and offer advice that wasn't asked for, it can become even more frustrating.

This is what happened to a mother-to-be whose husband suggested that she should eat meat during pregnancy - even though she is vegan.

The woman, who was writing under the handle 'ElizabethForever', took to British parenting site Mumsnet to ask others how they would respond if they were in her shoes.

She wrote, ''I have been a vegan my entire life. My husband is mainly vegan as I do the food shopping and cooking. I have never stopped him eating the food he wants to eat however anything containing animal products in the garage (we have a fridge/freezer out there).''

She continued, ''I am in the very very early stages of pregnancy and since we found out DH keeps making hints that I should be eating meat to keep the baby healthy. I have never had any problems with my iron levels etc but I have never been pregnant before.''

She added, ''DH has upset me by suggesting I go against something which is obviously a huge part of my life but I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable to be upset or if hormones are making me think more of it? Thanks.''

The responses to her post were divided, with many encouraging her to seek the advice of a doctor. 

One said, ''It's not right that he should be so controlling over your diet. Having a baby on the way is an anxious time for everyone, and perhaps he is being a bit clumsy in expressing his concerns. Maybe if you had your iron levels checked ( a good idea for all pregnant women) it would put his mind at ease?''

While another wrote, ''I think he has good intentions and I don't think he's being unreasonable to bring it up, but it's a question for your doctor, surely? For your peace of mind ask your doctor if you step likely to need any supplements.''

Others were a bit harsher in their replies, attacking the expectant mum for making her husband go out to the garage to get any food containing meat. 

One said, ''The control is the other way! The husband has to trek out to the garage if he wants anything animal based? So, milk in coffee for example requires a trip to his designated fridge/freezer. I think that's the controlling part.'' 

While another added, ''I agree with other who say you are as controlling as he is. It's his house too. He gets to put whatever he likes in the fridge. Lighten up.''

What do you think - is her husband being unreasonable or is he just looking out for her and the babies best interests? 



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