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Will it hurt the first time I have sex after having my baby?

Your body needs at least six weeks of healing before engaging in sexual intercourse again. This healing period may be longer for some women, depending on the amount of tearing and tissue trauma that occurs during delivery. This is especially true for women who have had an episiotomy, or vaginal lacerations.
Having sex too soon will put you at risk of infection, and there is the chance of some of the wounds opening up again. It is best to wait until you are fully healed, even if it means abstaining for longer than you would like to. When you are ready for intercourse, try using a sexual position that allows you to control the depth and intensity of penetration, such as girl-on-top, or side-by-side.
Breastfeeding can make sex feel uncomfortable, since your oestrogen levels will be very low. Low Oestrogen levels result in your vagina being unable to lubricate properly. The vaginal walls will be thinner and feel a lot drier than usual. If this is the case, use a good water-based lubricant. Avoid oil-based lubricants, such as petroleum-jelly based products. These are not condom-friendly and can agitate any lacerations that are still healing. If you have severe dryness, your doctor can prescribe an oestrogen cream that will revitalise the vaginal tissue.
Breastfeeding can result in messy sex sessions, due to leakage. Keep a towel nearby for clean-up, or wear a bra with nursing pads during sex.
Kegel exercises are great for strengthening and toning your vaginal muscles after natural birth.

More questions

There are some very good reasons that you would want to avoid sexual intercourse.
Your vagina will naturally shrink after delivery, as your body heals, but whether it returns to its original size, depends on a number of factors.
Your menstrual cycle usually starts towards the end of your breastfeeding phase, but how regular it is once it is back varies from woman to woman.
It is not uncommon for women to experience pain and discomfort during sex, for the first couple of months after having a baby.
The delaying effect that breastfeeding has on the return of normal menstruation has an effect on fertility and can be considered as a method of contraception – although it is not a very reliable one.
The Intrauterine System, or IUS, is an effective method of birth control that is safe to use while breastfeeding.
It is true that some women experience a drop in their sex drive while breastfeeding, however, this isn’t always the case.
The return to your normal cycle is not a hard and fast rule and it can take anything from a month to a year before your first post baby period happens.
It is entirely up to you and your husband as to when you want to start having sex after the birth of your baby. The best thing to do is to have patience and wait until your body is ready for sex after your baby is born.
As very often happens, if you are just too tired to have sex after a long day, then tell your husband. If he is understanding and clever, he will help you as much as he can. After all, you will both benefit from this.



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