When your child fails, the first thing mums want to do is to put an arm around them and cheer them up.
Worrying about their self esteem, you may feel angry and helpless. However, while it is natural for mums to feel this way, it can be productive for your child to fail sometimes.
While failing is a hard lesson for kids, it can present an opportunity for your little one to learn what happens when you cut corners or don’t put the effort in.
It is important that you allow your youngster see where they failed and why they did. This will help prevent them from making the same mistake in the future.
Don’t try to change the results or to make your child feel less disappointed. They won’t benefit from being overly protected and will find it hard to associate their actions with the result. If your child simply failed to put in the effort you must not try to blame the school or their teacher.
You need to address the problem and try to fix. Ask your child what part they played in the end result and question
what they are going to do so it won’t happen again. This will allow your little one to see healthier ways of responding to the problem. Make sure they take responsibility for it so that they can learn from it.
Talk to your child and ask them where they think they went wrong. Ask if they believe they put in enough effort or study time, this will present an opportunity for your child to make some positive changes in their life. If they feel they put in enough effort point out to them where you think they let themselves down. Allow your child to feel shame and discomfort, failing at things is a normal part of growing up.
Being a good parent doesn’t mean that you need to protect them from everything. Allowing them to take responsibility for their failures is one of the most important life lessons your little one will learn.
