A two year old child hears the word ‘no’ so often that they begin to tune it out. So, a parent must find other ways to say no to their child.
Make it positive. Think before you automatically say no to your child. Is there a way that I can rephrase my response so that I am not using the word ‘no’? A two year old will respond better to a direct positive instruction. For instance, instead of saying, “No, don’t play ball in the kitchen,” say, “Let’s go outdoors to play with the ball.” Instead of saying, “No, you have to hold my hand in the parking lot,” say, “I want you to hold my hand because the parking lot is dangerous”.
It’s also helpful to offer options when you need to say ‘no’ to your child. As an example, if your child wants candy but you don’t want her to have it because it is too close to dinner time, offer alternative healthy snack like grapes, instead of a just denying her request for candy. This allows your child to make a decision, and making decisions helps a child feel in control.
Distracting your child’s attention from something that would cause you to say ‘no’ works as well. If you’re shopping and your toddler reaches for a glass jar on the shelf, move her away from the jar and divert her attention to something else in the store. This is much easier than saying ‘no’ over and over.
Lastly, choose your battles wisely. You don’t have to say ‘no’ to everything. If your child wants to splash in a puddle while walking home from the park, let her. As long as there is no harm in doing so, why not indulge their sense of adventure?
Make it positive. Think before you automatically say no to your child. Is there a way that I can rephrase my response so that I am not using the word ‘no’? A two year old will respond better to a direct positive instruction. For instance, instead of saying, “No, don’t play ball in the kitchen,” say, “Let’s go outdoors to play with the ball.” Instead of saying, “No, you have to hold my hand in the parking lot,” say, “I want you to hold my hand because the parking lot is dangerous”.
It’s also helpful to offer options when you need to say ‘no’ to your child. As an example, if your child wants candy but you don’t want her to have it because it is too close to dinner time, offer alternative healthy snack like grapes, instead of a just denying her request for candy. This allows your child to make a decision, and making decisions helps a child feel in control.
Distracting your child’s attention from something that would cause you to say ‘no’ works as well. If you’re shopping and your toddler reaches for a glass jar on the shelf, move her away from the jar and divert her attention to something else in the store. This is much easier than saying ‘no’ over and over.
Lastly, choose your battles wisely. You don’t have to say ‘no’ to everything. If your child wants to splash in a puddle while walking home from the park, let her. As long as there is no harm in doing so, why not indulge their sense of adventure?
