A girl who is resilient is courageous, creative, and energetic and adapt easily to new situations. A resilient girl is not afraid to try something difficult and challenging.

Lots of girls are resilient when they are young. Lots of girls stay resilient as they continue through primary school but in the last year or two of primary school, between the ages of 11 and 13, girls enter a vulnerable age and their resilience takes a battering.

Girls tend to base future successes on past failures and girls blame themselves more than boys.

Girl’s expectations of future success are affected by past or present failures more than successes. They also attribute more blame to themselves than boys do. At around this age, girls begin to lose the ability to speak and think for themselves. This could partly be attributed to physical changes in boys getting bigger, louder and stronger but is largely a result of physical and social concerns.

Physical concerns

Girls become more aware of their body image as they enter their tween and teenage years. This can largely related to exposure to media and societal expectations. They attempt to attain an impossible standard of beauty and feel that they consistently fail.

Social concerns

Girls are also typically more social than boys. Girls seem to present a greater fear of rejection from a group of boys do. In this way, a lot of girls will just follow the crowd rather than voice their own opinions. This can cause them to lose their voice and confidence causing their resilience to diminish.

Strong relationships provide the solution

Girls need parents to help them lessen the impact of destructive media messages that pervade society. These messages put down, objectify and marginalise young girls thus reducing self esteem. Society tells girls that their sole reason for existing to is to satisfy someone else’s needs and without strong relationships to prove otherwise, some girls accept this. After all, society makes youg impressonable girls believe that they exist to satisfy someone else's needs-and without positive relationships to prove otherwise, some girls begin to believe this.A lower level of self-esteem causes these girls to feel less worthy and lead to their resilience being diminished.

Girls can be resilient and there are many examples of girls who become strong and effective leaders. What these girls have in common is the kinds of relationships they have with their parents. These girls usually have relationships with parents and friends that encourage a resilient nature through mutual understanding, kindness and compassion. Relationships that foster resilience also create enthusiasm, a sense of worth, productivity and a desire for connection. Girls tend to excel if they share a strong, positive relationship with a capable adult. Their ability to participate in relationship, voices an opinion, make decisions and discuss challenges all promotes the development of a resilient nature.