Divorce is hard on all those involved but particularly children; they can struggle to understand why things have to change and why you can’t simply work it out.
Unfortunately, this confusion can manifest itself into anger and blame, sometimes directing it at one person.
So, what can you do when your child blames you for your divorce?
1. Don’t try to ignore their feelings
While having their anger directed at you might feel hurtful it is important you don’t ignore or belittle their concerns. Sometimes their anger is their only way to express themselves - so let them.
2. Be honest with them
It is important that you are as honest with your children as much as possible. Explain the situation without upsetting them more so that they understand why you and your partner have gone your separate ways.
3. Don’t talk down about your ex
The last thing you want to do is talk down about your ex in front of your child. While you might think this will make you look better, it will, in fact, make the situation worse. Instead, try as much as possible for you and your child's dad to remain as a unit when it comes to parenting.
4. Stay involved in their life
It is important you stay involved in their life as much as possible even if they are giving you the cold shoulder. Try to maintain communication, attend games and include them in family activities as much as you can. Understand that they are going through an incredibly difficult time so you will need to be there no matter how angry they are at you.
5. Give them time
Time is a great healer so give your youngster a chance to get used to the changes. Like you, they will go through a number of emotions before settling down.