It’s important to realise that your child will require additional supervision and more of your time than other children to learn how to practice responsible behaviour.
Break up desired behaviour into sections and let your child learn the consequences of his actions. For instance, if your teenager wants to stay out until ten o’clock, begin by letting him stay out until nine o’clock. If that goes well then allow him to stay out until ten o’clock. If, however it doesn’t go well move the curfew back to nine until he can responsibly stay out later.
Keep a controlled eye on your teenager’s behaviour outside the home, such as what friends he is with, what he is doing and when he will be home. Set clear rules for what behaviour you expect, what is and what is not permissible.
Expect to encounter problems, develop behaviour contracts for situations that may be potentially difficult, such as homework or being home on time. You and your child should be fully aware of what will happen if these rules aren’t kept. Punishments should be fair and consistent, with your child knowing in advance what will happen.
There should be certain rules which are negotiable and others that are not negotiable. You may find that your teenager is more compliant with rules that they have helped create. In order to help your child develop independence, gradually give them more of a say in decision making once they have proven themselves.