Really desperate to have a baby but hubby not

Last updated: 28/09/2013 08:43 by AnonMomPost to AnonMomPost's Blog
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My husband and I have been together 18 years, we got married 8 years ago, and we always talked about having a family. Well, I suppose in reality I always talked about having a family and never really noticed that he wasn't as enthusiastic about it. I did talk to him about having a baby when we first got married, and he would always say 'not now'. But the years have passed we're both gone 40 and I've never been more ready. I feel like every day I see a baby, a mum and baby, a dad and baby, a familiy ... I'm going mad. It's all I really want. I recently told hubby how I feel and he came straight out and said he has no interest in having kids, not now, not ever. We had a a huge row and I told him he basically lied to me all these years by not saying outright that he wasn't interested. He said this was not a new position for him and that I should've known. He's a great husband, best friend, confidante - everything I could ever wish for, and he would be the most amazing dad too. But he won't budge. I'm absolutely devestated. I have no way around this. And whilst I have no interest in leaving my wonderful husband, I so so so desperately want a baby. And I feel time is really running out. Has anybody else had this experience or advice? Some days I think I should just call it a day on our relationship if I feel so strongly about having a baby. But then, the obvious question of 'what then' arises? I don't want to be a single mum, I just don't want to do it on my own. I want a family. Our family. Help please. Has anybody been in this position? Is there any light at the end of the tunnel? Or is it just not meant to be?
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